3 Stages O f Adopting A Child I n India

You a r e always w e l c o m e in h i b a b y n a m e , B r o w s e amazing a n d astonishing B a b y Names a n d their m e a n i n g s for i d e a s and s h a r e your c o m m e n t s . E n j o y !

A d o p t i o n is a dream-come-true f o r many! T h e r e are p e o p l e who a r e not a b l e to h a v e kids o f their o w n . For t h e m it i s good t o adopt a child w h o is l e f t alone i n the w o r l d . There a r e others w h o have k i d s , but w a n t to a d o p t to b e able t o support a n innocent c h i l d and h e l p her l i v e a b e t t e r life. E v e n if y o u are s i n g l e , you c a n still a d o p t a c h i l d and h a v e a h a p p y family! W h e t h e r you a r e a c h i l d l e s s couple o r have c h i l d r e n of y o u r own, t h e newborn baby a d o p t i o n process remains m o r e or l e s s the s a m e in I n d i a .

D o you p l a n to a d o p t a c h i l d ? Then i t ’ s important t h a t you s t a y updated w i t h the p r o c e d u r e s . The C e n t r a l Adoption R e s o u r c e Authority ( C A R A ) , which i s a p a r t of t h e ministry o f women a n d child c a r e , governs t h e procedures r e l a t e d to a d o p t i o n . A c o u r t of c o m p e t e n t jurisdiction a l s o has t h e power t o pass a n order f o r adoption. I f you w i s h to m a k e an o r p h a n child y o u r own, t h e n here i s the p r o c e s s you n e e d to f o l l o w for a d o p t i o n of a baby.

T h e prospective a d o p t i v e parents ( P A P ) need t o register t h e m s e l v e s with a n authoritative a g e n c y closest t o their r e s i d e n c e . Recognized I n d i a n Placement A g e n c i e s (RIPA) a n d Special A d o p t i o n Agency ( S A A ) are t h e authorities w h i c h are e m p o w e r e d to r e g i s t e r such a request. H e r e are t h e steps i n v o l v e d :

T h e concerned a u t h o r i t y will g u i d e you w i t h all t h e procedures t h a t are i n v o l v e d for a d o p t i n g a c h i l d . You w i l l also g e t counseling f r o m experienced c o n s u l t a n t s on a d o p t i o n and p a r e n t i n g . This i s especially h e l p f u l for s i n g l e parents o r childless c o u p l e s .

A home e x a m i n a t i o n will b e done b y a c o m p e t e n t social w o r k e r within a maximum p e r i o d of t w o months f r o m the d a t e of r e g i s t r a t i o n . You w i l l be r e q u i r e d to f u r n i s h a m e d i c a l examination r e p o r t , which s h o u l d not b e more t h a n a y e a r old a t the t i m e of r e f e r r a l of t h e child.

A n Adoption C o m m i t t e e will b e set u p by t h e SAA, w h i c h will l o o k into t h e eligibility o f the P A P s and f i n d a c h i l d who m a t c h e s the r e q u i r e m e n t s provided b y them. T h e committee w i l l also a s c e r t a i n whether t h e child i s free t o be l e g a l l y adopted. O n finding a suitable c h i l d , the S A A will a l l o w you t o visit t h e centre a n d see t h e child. I f you a r e ready t o adopt t h e chosen c h i l d , then y o u will h a v e to g i v e your a c c e p t a n c e by s i g n i n g the m e d i c a l examination r e p o r t and t h e child s t u d y report t h a t is f u r n i s h e d by t h e SAA. Y o u will n e e d to p r o v i d e your l o c a l contacts t o the a g e n c y and f o l l o w all t h e rules l a i d down b y the a u t h o r i t i e s as w e l l as b y the c o u r t s . Before a full-fledged a d o p t i o n , the c h i l d can b e placed i n foster c a r e with P A P s .

O n c e the g o v e r n i n g authority i s satisfied a b o u t your a b i l i t y to a d o p t , the c h i l d will b e legally p l a c e d in y o u r care a n d you w i l l become t h e new p a r e n t s of t h e child.

W e hope t h i s article h a s given y o u a p r i m e r on t h e basics o f adoption p r o c e s s in I n d i a . For d e t a i l e d information, i t is b e s t to c o n t a c t a R I P A or S A A certified a g e n c y and c l a r i f y all y o u r doubts. W e wish y o u the b e s t in t h i s process. H a v e you a d o p t e d a c h i l d ? Share w i t h us y o u r stories.

F o r people w h o say ‘ j u s t adopt’ t o couples s t r u g g l i n g with i n f e r t i l i t y , let m e tell y o u something – it i s not a walk i n the p a r k ! And i n any c a s e , the s t r o n g biological d e s i r e to g i v e birth, t o pass o n our D N A , is i n b u i l t in o u r species. T h a t does n o t make u s selfish; t h a t makes u s human.

S o , when o n e does d e c i d e to a d o p t , one g i v e s up t h e dream o f carrying a baby, f e e l i n g her m o v e inside y o u , to s e e her f a c e and f i n d a l i t t l e bit o f you t h e r e . Yes, t h e mourning p r o c e s s is v e r y much a part o f adoption.

T h o u g h we h a d a b i o l o g i c a l son a n d adoption w a s very c l o s e to o u r heart, i t did t a k e some t i m e to c l o s e one c h a p t e r and o p e n the n e x t . And w e were s c a r e d of t h e wait! I n the c i t y we l i v e in, t h e waiting p e r i o d for a d o p t i n g a b a b y girl t h r o u g h the g o v e r n m e n t adoption a g e n c y was a whopping 3 – 4 years! S o , our a d o p t i o n dreams w e r e put i n limbo u n t i l we h e a r d that a city n e a r b y (about 1 0 0 kilometers f r o m our p l a c e ) had a shorter w a i t i n g period.

W e were t o l d that i t wouldn’t t a k e more t h a n six m o n t h s to b r i n g our b a b y home! T h i s was j u s t the p u s h we n e e d e d ! So, o f f we w e n t for a long d r i v e and s u b m i t t e d our a d o p t i o n papers, a whole l o t of t h e m , in A u g u s t 2013. A n d the w a i t began.

S i x months p a s s e d by a n d we d i d n ’ t even g e t a h o m e study v i s i t ! It t o o k numerous v i s i t s to t h e concerned o f f i c e to c a j o l e them t o visit o u r home. O n c e that w a s done, w e were h o p e f u l that t h e next s t a g e would m o v e quickly. B u t as t h e y say, a l l good t h i n g s take t i m e .

S o , days t u r n e d into w e e k s , and w e e k s turned i n t o months – but w e kept w a i t i n g for t h a t elusive p h o n e call, t h e call t h a t would t e l l us t h a t we w e r e matched w i t h a b a b y girl.

T h e worst t h i n g about a d o p t i o n is t h e waiting – there a r e no t w o ways a b o u t that. B u t maybe t h e y want t o check h o w badly w e actually w a n t a b a b y ! A l o t of f a m i l i e s drop o u t of t h e adoption j o u r n e y during t h i s waiting p e r i o d . Maybe i t is a really s m a r t way t o weed o u t the ‘ n o t so r e a d y for a d o p t i o n ’ families!

I used t h i s time t o do m y research. I studied u p about a d o p t i o n , about h o w to d e a l with a d o p t e d babies. I tried t o stay p o s i t i v e , but i t wasn’t e a s y . Each d a y pushed m e further t o w a r d s despair. B u t just b e f o r e I w a s ready t o give u p , we g o t the c a l l ! July 2 0 1 4 , we f i n a l l y went t o see o u r baby!

T h e r e she w a s , a m e r e three-month-old. A tiny b u n d l e of j o y . Oh, y e s she w a s tiny, j u s t weighing t h r e e kgs! B u t that w a s not s o m e t h i n g to w o r r y about. W e were a l r e a d y in l o v e . We t h e n took h e r to t h e doctor f o r her m e d i c a l tests. B u t we n e e d e d a l i t t l e more p a t i e n c e . We c o u l d n ’ t take o u r baby h o m e that d a y because t h e r e was s o m e more p a p e r w o r k that n e e d e d to b e done.

S o , the w a i t began a g a i n . We w e r e told t h a t it w o u l d take a week. I t took o v e r two m o n t h s ! We s h o p p e d for h e r , but t h e n watched i n agony a s time p a s s e d by a n d the c l o t h e s became t o o small, e v e n before t h e y were w o r n ! My h e a r t ached e v e r y time i t rained a s I t h o u g h t of m y daughter, a l l alone, i n a s m a l l room.

B u t all’s w e l l that e n d ’ s well! W e got A a r y a n a home i n September 2 0 1 4 . She w a s five m o n t h s old a n d just p e r f e c t .

Y e s , the w a i t for y o u r baby c a n be e x c r u c i a t i n g . But w h e n you f i n a l l y bring y o u r child h o m e , that ‘ w a i t ’ becomes a part o f the j o u r n e y , a j o u r n e y well t r a v e l l e d !

C h h a n d i t a Chakravarthy i s an e d i t o r by p r o f e s s i o n and a writer b y passion. B u t her f u l l time j o b is t h a t of a loving m o t h e r !

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